You know what I’m talking about when I say ‘the honeymoon stage’, right? It’s that time after you’ve started your new idea where everything is coming up roses. You’re writing like the waves. You’re throwing caution to the wind. You got this!
And then, you don’t.
You come to a point in your new story where it loses the new appeal. For me, it’s usually around the 25K mark. I get just in the midst of the meat and stop. Freeze. Dear in the headlights. I panic.
What if this idea is horrible? What if I can’t write it right? What if the excitement of it was all in my head and no one will ever want to read it?
I walk away from my story. I get excited about a new idea. I binge watch Supernatural for the tenth time this year. I start second guessing myself as a writer and in the words of the famous Chuck, I tell everyone, “Writing is hard!”
But is it supposed to be easy? Is anything that is truly worth it easy?
You all know the answer to that: no.
Writing is a job, yes. But more than that, writing is a passion. You have to work at your relationship to make it last. For me, there are steps I take to find that love again:
- Spend a moment on yourself
When I start writing a book, I forget about everything else. That Zumba class I was taking? What is that? I don’t have time for that. Or eating. Or sleeping. With an attitude like that of course I’m going to come to a breaking point. So go out to lunch. By yourself. Go back to that Zumba class and dance the hour away. Remember to take care of yourself and your creativity will come back to you.
- Remind yourself that you can do this
This is of course a tough one for us. As human beings, we are our own worst critics. But do you remember that one scene you wrote that you absolutely loved? Or an article that was published in your high school newspaper all those years ago that everyone complimented you on? Or if you do have a book already out, go hold it in your hands and tell yourself that you can get through this. You’ve been here before, you’ll be here again, but you can and will get through it.
- Remember why you write
What made you fall in love with writing? What made you fall in love with this book?
- Remember you are not alone
There are a great group of authors around you, going through the same thing. We all have doubts, we all go through these moments. YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
So grab that pen (or computer) and keep going! There’s an amazing story waiting on the other side of all this doubt. You can do it!
Born and raised in St. Petersburg, Russia, Valia Lind always had a love for the written word. She wrote her first full book on the bathroom floor of her dormitory, while procrastinating to study for her college classes. Upon graduation, she has moved her writing to more respectable places, and have found her voice in Young Adult fiction. Falling by Design is her debut young adult novel.